Happy Sunday and Happy April! Even if it doesn’t quite feel like it, Spring is here!
The past few days have been gray, cool, and dreary. It can really affect your mood. It’s par for the course… This is Ohio.. this is typical March/April weather.
But sunny and warm days lie ahead. The promise of summer – care-free feelings, warm sunshine, and gorgeous blue skies.
Without the cold and dark, would we truly appreciate the sun?
Similar to our own, individual lives – would we appreciate the good, the successes – without the challenges that life presents to us?
We need the rain just as much as we need the sun. Likewise, the challenges in our lives teach us lessons, if we are willing to listen and pay attention. It’s how we grow; become better people.
And our approach is tantamount.
Change your attitude. Change your life.
If you have a bleak outlook and see every challenge as a problem, then that’s exactly what it’s going to be. And it’s going to be difficult. You’ll find more and more problems. It keeps adding up, piling on. It becomes heavy and it’s hard to break through all that weighs you down.
However, if you can put things in perspective, laugh at yourself. Have a sense of humor, realizing that life is not that serious. See the challenge as an opportunity – to grow, to change, to try again. You will make it through. You can tackle the difficulties and move on with your life, hopefully having learned something in the process.
But how do you do it? How do you turn the negative into a positive?
There’s a lot of information out in the world that tells us we have to have a good attitude. We have to think positively. We have to believe. We cannot allow ourselves to have a negative thought.
It can be overwhelming and confusing.
So how do you do it?
Become aware of what you’re saying and how you are saying it.
Begin to change the way you speak to yourself.
Turn the negatives into positives by practicing gratitude.
The sink is filled with dirty dishes and you find yourself annoyed and frustrated. Pause. Accept the annoyance and frustration, but then think about it. A pile of dirty dishes means that you have food to eat. As you begin to tackle the chore, give thanks for having the convenience of running water.. that’s hot. Think about the delicious food you ate. Think about how you are important to your family.
Large piles of laundry in the hamper or on the floor can be upsetting and time consuming. If you find yourself complaining about having to pick up everyone’s dirty clothes, having to wash clothes everyday, folding the clothes and putting them away, etc.. Pause. Accept the frustration and annoyance, but then think about it. Piles of laundry mean you have people around you, people who love you. Think about how important you are to your family. And then think about the convenience of having a washer and dryer. For years, I lived without one. I had to go to the laundry mat. Some people are unable to do even that, and have to wash their clothes in a sink or bathtub. Some in a pond, river, or lake.
A personal example:
I have long hair that gets tangled easily. My husband and son like to roll down their windows in the car, which is not conducive to my glam hairstyle. In addition, every single time I wash my hair, it is a struggle to comb it. It is frustrating, annoying, painful at times. But despite this, I do love having long hair. Instead of complaining when my hair gets tangled up in knots, I can be thankful that I have hair, that it was warm enough outside to have the windows down, and that I was able to spend some time with my family.
Whenever I find myself annoyed, frustrated, upset, just in a bad mood that I am unable to shake… I like to do a few things.
Take a deep breath.
Ask myself: will this matter in 10 minutes? in 10 months? in 10 years?
And I think about this picture.
It’s a powerful message.
I want to leave you with a few of my favorite quotes that encourage thought, and hopefully will inspire you.
“Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer thanks for all the troubles we don’t have.”
“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”
“The key to happiness is letting each situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be.”
All frustrations are self-induced. The outside world can invite us to become upset, be we ultimately accept the invitation.
“It wasn’t a waste of time if you learned something.”
“Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.”
The Mind is everything.
What you think, you become.
What you feel, you attract.
What you imagine, you create.
Have a spectacular week friends!