7 Inspiring Quotes on Enjoying Life

Hello friends!

Happy Sunday!

How are you doing?

As I’m sitting and writing this post, I’m enjoying a little ice cream. My IF schedule is a little out of whack and I found myself hungry two hours after my eating window. I decided to have ice cream for a few different reasons: I’m hungry, I haven’t had that many calories today, the sun is shining giving me spring vibes, and my ankle is swollen.


But the most important reason is this: life is short. Why not indulge a little and enjoy it?

And that’s really what this week’s post is all about.

Enjoying life.

We (and by we you all know I mean me, but at the same time I realize that I can’t be the only one, and also, I love to include you all in my generalized, philosophical thoughts..) get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily living. We have responsibilities: work, children, chores, bills; and our own personal goals we’re trying to achieve: health, fitness, financial. We get wrapped up in how everything is “supposed to be” and forget what relaxing means. We skip dessert or treats because they are “bad for us” or because we are trying to achieve a certain look. We avoid things we might actually enjoy in fear of what others might think of us. (Okay, that last one doesn’t really apply to me. I fully admit that I love watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians and Big Brother, but I refuse to watch The Bachelor. I don’t see the appeal. I love Twilight and Harry Potter, but I think 50 Shades of Grey is trash. I tried reading the first book and couldn’t make it past the second page. But I digress. This isn’t a bashing post or a things I love post, but wouldn’t that be fun? — The latter, I’m not into negativity.)

I recently shared a picture to my Instastories with background music: “I Don’t Care” by Fall Out Boy. I love that song, it’s such a mood. In a way, it was my mantra for the past week. I’m having fun, doing something I love, and enjoying life. Who cares what anyone thinks? Who has time to worry about complete strangers on the internet? It always boggles my mind when people leave negative, hateful, or nasty comments. Where are they finding time for that? I was just chatting with a friend about how as I get older I feel like there are less hours in the day. Do you feel that way, too?

And now that I’ve rambled for a bit, this week I encourage all of you to engage in something you love, simply for the joy of it. If you love bubble baths, take one this week. Go all out, put a bath bomb in, light some candles, grab some magazines or a juicy novel, and relax. If you love to dance and sing, put your favorite songs in a playlist on Spotify, crank the volume up, and sing and dance your heart out all around your house. If you love yoga, hop on your mat for a yummy flow — just for you. If you want dessert, have a dessert this week. One treat is not going to derail your progress. Whatever you do this week, take a little time for yourself.

The second thing I challenge you to this week is to really be present. Put your phone down and enjoy a moment of life with your loved ones. Create a memory just for you and your family. In a world of social media, influencers, and over-sharing, it’s really magical when you unplug and keep something for yourself. (Nothing against social media, you know I love Instagram!)

And with all that, I will leave you with a few quotes to inspire you to slow down, be present, take time for yourself, and enjoy life. It might sound cheesy, but we only get so much time on this planet. No one lives forever. Make the most of your time here.




The trick is to enjoy life. Don't wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.Don't let your ice cream melt waiting for someone else's sprinkles.You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.Just enjoy where you are now.Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn, or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.Enjoy the little things in life. One day you may look back and realize they were the big things.Life is short. It's up to you to make it sweet.

Have an amazing week!

Love and Light.


How to be a Decent Person

Hello friends!

Happy Sunday!

A few years ago, I wrote a little post titled, How To Deal With People. It was inspired by a specific interaction I had, but I felt it was specifically important considering it was around the holiday time. As many of you know, it is now a little tradition of mine to share it around Thanksgiving in the U.S. as a little reminder.

Recently, I found out that one of my articles had been copied and pasted onto another website without my permission. We all deal with that at some point, right? What was particularly infuriating to me was not only was this an article that I had poured my heart and soul into, one I am still to this day incredibly proud of, but the person had also taken two of my pictures, including a personal photo of myself and my son. I’m still trying to get it taken down, and that whole process is another ordeal. (you can imagine my extreme eye roll here.) This is isn’t the first time this has happened (and probably won’t be the last) but it is the one that upset me the most.

As a result, I was inspired to finish an article I had started two years ago. The original idea was etiquette in modern times, a response of sorts to the political chaotic mess that my country was dealing with, as well as my take on the interactions I had been experiencing. That got put on the back burner as other ideas came to me, most especially because I think most of you know, my whole shtick is fitness and life inspiration.

But this blatant disregard for copyright law really grinds my gears. (Shameless Family Guy reference haha!) So, I decided to share my take on how to be a decent person. It explores 6 simple ideas that we all can implement in our lives to make ourselves better human beings.

How To Be A Decent Person


If you have some time this morning, I’d love for you to click the link above and read it. Leave a comment if you’d like. I’d love to hear your thoughts!


That’s it from me this week: a part two for How To Deal With People. Simple tips and reminders that can work for everyone.

I hope you all have a wonderful week!

See you next Sunday!


10 Reasons to Workout

Hello friends!

Happy Sunday!

A short and sweet post for all of you this week… I’m sharing 10 reasons why you should workout today! (And all week, really.) I love lists (I’m a Type A, through and through haha!) and with the weather acting up and motivation overall lacking, I thought this would be perfect for us all!

Without further ado, let’s dive in!

10. To Boost Your Energy

I don’t agree that getting in a morning workout is a replacement for coffee. You won’t every hear me say anything of the sort. However, working out can give you a boost of feel-good endorphins and make you feel like a million bucks! The trick? There really isn’t one, but what works for me is getting a few cups of coffee in as soon as I wake up, and getting in my workout right after. Pushing through that afternoon slump with a little movement is also great for giving you a natural energy boost. Give it a try!

9. To Combat Stress and Anxiety

Ever find yourself getting so worked up over something? Trying to solve an issue and can’t seem to come up with any solutions? Clear your head by doing a workout! Seriously, this works! It’s how I deal with the vast majority of stress in my life. Yoga is my go-to, but I also love to throw on a music playlist (see my monthly Spotify playlist for inspo) and move along with Tracy Anderson. Whether it’s a mat workout or dance cardio, I always feel better after one of her workouts.

8. …because it’s free! (or because you’re paying for it!)

Free: Well, kinda. Depends on what you’re doing and where you’re doing it. If you have a gym membership, chances are you’re paying a hefty monthly fee. Don’t let that money go to waste! I hear many people joking about how they pay for a gym membership and never go.. how is that funny? It’s a complete waste of money in my opinion. Get up and go to the gym! If you aren’t paying for a gym membership, welcome to my club! I workout out at home, barefoot, and half the time in pajamas. There’s no shame in my fitness game. Hop on YouTube and try something new. Go for a walk around the neighborhood, jog for extra credit, or go visit a park. Walk around, explore, take pictures, take in the scenery.

7. To Prevent Getting Sick

Flu season is upon us. And some people refuse to stay home when they’re sick. Is there nothing worse than being next to someone who is coughing and sneezing? You can feel the germs entering your body and get instantly annoyed because you just know you are about to get sick. Ugh. Exercising boosts your immune system, helping you fight off those nasty germs and decreasing your chance of getting sick. Side note: be sure to carry some hand sanitizer with you, or be a total badass and have a can of Lysol spray that you can use to defend yourself. haha! (Just kidding. It might be considered rude if you cover your nose and mouth with the neck of your shirt and spray your Lysol in a circle all around you.)

6. To Lose Weight and Tone Up

Are you currently working on a New Year’s Resolution to slim down, tone up, or lose weight? Go get your workout in! Consistency is key. Spring is just around the corner, and summer will be here before you know it. It’s almost time to break out the shorts and tank tops. Even if you haven’t been exercising lately, if you start today, you can be 5-15 lbs. lighter by May. That’s incredible! Go workout, babe!

5. To Live Longer

Heart disease. Diabetes. Two major illnesses that cause massive complications and can shorten your life span. Did you see the heart-breaking news that Luke Perry passed away from complications relating to a massive stroke? He was only in his 50’s!

Regular physical activity has many health benefits and the American Heart Association recommends fitting in 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity per week for adults. Children ages 6-17 should be getting in 60 minutes of moderate to vigorous aerobic activity per day. What do they mean by that? Take a brisk walk, go swimming, dance, get out to tend to your garden, go hiking, etc. Sticking with these guidelines helps reduce your risk of a heart attack or stroke, can improve your sleep, and can help combat depression. Click the link below for more information.

American Heart Association Recommendations for Physical Activity in Adults and Kids

4. To Create Balance In Your Life (…because you love to eat.)

Work on your core to improve your balance. But also, if you love to eat (who doesn’t?) exercise can help create a balance. You can’t out exercise a bad diet. Well, if you’re in your 20’s, you might be able to, but trust me, it catches up to you eventually. I like to enjoy everything in moderation. Restricting my diet never ends well for me. I have a sweet tooth, I enjoy the standard American diet, but I also try to make healthy choices and limit my treats. Now, it’s Cadbury egg season so… yeah. But in all seriousness, staying consistent with your fitness routine ensures that you won’t have too many problems.


3. To Improve Your Flexibility

This is something I’ve been working on for awhile… total body flexibility, but more specifically, achieving splits. My hips are tight and this does not come easy to me. I have to work hard, every day, to fight for milimeters. Why should you improve your flexibility? Well, it helps reduce pain and helps decrease your risk of injury. (Something I know all too well.) It also helps with overall strength and in your daily tasks. Try a fun yoga video to increase your flexibility and make sure you are warming up and cooling down before every workout.

2. To Improve Your Posture

This is a biggie for me. Most of you know that I am still recovering from a shoulder injury. Part of my issue is poor posture. My shoulders are rounded forward, not good, which only puts more pressure on my spine and increases my risk for injury. Most of us spend the day hunched over a computer at a desk, or looking down at our phones. Then when we get home, we relax on the couch, in a slouched position for maximum comfort. Poor posture leads to a whole host of issues down the road. Prevent yourself a lot of pain and headaches by focusing on exercises and stretches that help open your chest, strengthen your shoulders and back, and improve your posture.

1. For Greater Confidence

When you look good, you feel good. One component of that is staying consistent with your fitness routine. You’re worth it! Get up and get moving, babe!


Well, that’s all from me friends. What’s your reason for working out this week? Leave a comment and let me know!

Have a wonderful week!


7 Powerful Quotes to Inspire Your Week

Hello friends!

Happy Sunday!

What a week! Last Sunday, we had a wind storm that knocked out our power… for a solid 34.5 hours.

That was fun.

Nothing like no power to make you realize how dependent on electricity and wifi you are. haha!

That combined with my shoulders acting up again and a whole host of other stresses just has me completely exhausted.

It’s incredible how the weather affects your body as you age.

I don’t know about you, but I’m in need of a tropical vacation. You know what I’m talking about… soft sand, warm sunshine, planting my tush at the water’s edge… Basically a Zac Brown Band song…


Well, now that that is out of the way…

This week, I’m sharing one of my favorite things with all of you… inspirational, motivational quotes. A sort of pep talk for us all as we try to get through the final stages of winter. As our local meterologist pointed out yesterday, March is coming in like a lion. Hopefully that will set us up for a nice summer.

Until then, here are the seven quotes that are inspiring me this week.

Let’s make it an amazing one!

Two things you are in total control over_ Your Attitude and Your Effort.Every time you get upset at something, ask yourself, if you were to die tomorrow, was it worth wasting your time being angry_Stay committed in your decisions, but flexible in your approach.If you don't go after what you want, You'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place.Stop stopping yourself.Energy is contagious_ you either affect people or infect people.Words. So powerful. They can crush a heart, or heal it. They can shame a soul, or liberate it. They can shatter dreams, or energize them. They can obstruct connection, or invite it. They can create defenses, or mel


Have a wonderful week, friends!


February Favorites – 2019 Edition

Hello friends!

Here it is, the final day of February. You know what that means… time for another round of monthly favorites!

Let’s dive in!

Oreo The Most Stuf

Oh my goodness! If you haven’t tried these limited edition Oreos yet, put them in your cart next time you go to the grocery store. They are soooooo good! The classic Oreo cookie you know and love, with more creame than ever before. They make the double stuf look like generic cookies. These are amazing!


King’s Hawaiian Original Sweet Rolls


I love King’s Hawaiin bread. It’s the perfect amount of sweetness and compliments any savory dinner. Or as a stand alone snack. haha! When I was growing up, there was a Chinese restaurant that my family used to go to a few times a year. My favorite part of was always the homemade bread that they served and King’s Hawaiian bread tastes the exact same! I had my husband pick these rolls up the other day to go with our roast… perfection! As you can see, the rolls don’t last long in our house. haha!


Glass Cutting Board


I’ve needed a new cutting board for about six months now. I had a really nice wooden one that I ended up trading a few years ago for an older one that had been in my husband’s family for a long time. The glass lighthouse one I had was several years old and started peeling and ended up molding. Then the plastic one I had just didn’t hold up to my abuse. haha! So, I’ve been in the market for a new one for awhile. I found this glass one at Aldi for $4.99.. a steal! I put that in the cart and brought it right home. How gorgeous is it? I love it!


Neutrogena HydroBoost Body Gel Cream


This is my new favorite body lotion! My friend, Robyn from CharmingGuru, originally recommended it, and I’ve been using it for about a month and a half. It keeps my skin soft and hydrated for days! Love, love, love this!

My favorite YouTube Videos this month:

Conspiracy Theories with Shane Dawson

Investigating Conspiracies with Shane Dawson



10 Ways To INSTANTLY Look SKINNY (but in a GOOD way) – Shea Whitney


Articles and Posts You Should Check Out:

Washing and Refrigerating Eggs – Urban Farmyard Sanctuary

Best Smoked Pulled Pork and Beef Brisket – Pamela Oglesby

Vacation in US National Parks – Pamela Oglesby

Our Spiritual Connection With Cats – Lora Hollings


That’s all for this month! What were your favorite things? Leave me a comment and let me know!




Life is a Journey: Check-in and Re-Evaluate — February 2019




Happy Sunday! How are you doing?

It’s the final week of February!

That means it’s time to review our goals and our performance for the month.

I really love checking in at the end of each month to see how my performance lined up with my goals. Doing this helps ensure that I reach those goals I set for myself at the beginning of the year. It’s not enough to set a few goals, write them down, and leave them to collect dust in a drawer somewhere. That doesn’t lead to success.

So, I encourage you to take a little time today to pause, reflect, and have an honest conversation with yourself. How are you feeling? What actions have you taken this month? Have you continuously been working toward your goals? Have you slipped up? If so, why? What happened? Do you need to revise your goals?

Evaluate your current goals and adjust as necessary. There’s nothing wrong with abandoning a goal that no longer serves you, or adjusting a goal to make it more realistic. Set a new goal if necessary, maybe something more realistic, maybe you want to up the ante and challenge yourself. Whatever speaks to you. Create an action plan. Figure out how to achieve that goal and then get started!


My goals for the year are:

  • Practice yoga every day 
  • Complete a Tracy Anderson workout 5-6 times a week (I am participating in a 100 days of TAM challenge at the moment.)
  • Complete a cardio workout 1-2 times a week
  • Focus on opening the chest and strengthening the chest, back, and shoulder muscles
  • 12 Push-Ups daily
  • Complete a TIU workout at least 3 times a week (Love Your Body Series!)
  • Achieve splits
  • Focus on building a strong core and get a leaner stomach
  • Cut back on sweets
  • Tone up and slim down overall. (This means being able to fit into those shorts in my dresser, as well as working toward a new swimsuit in the spring.)

Looking at my workouts for the month, this is my assessment of how things went.

  • I did get on my mat everyday, even for just a few minutes for light stretching. Goal met.
  • I did a Tracy Anderson workout (sometimes more than one) 16 days out of 23 so far. I think that’s pretty good. Goal met.
  • I only completed 7 cardio workouts this month. Technically goal met, but I definitely want to keep working on this through March.
  • I have been focusing on my chest, back, and shoulders. So much, in fact, that I now have to take a step back because my shoulders are starting to ache again. I’ve been incorporating Feldenkrais movements, along with targeted yoga, stretching, and my physical therapy. This is something I’m treating with special care so that I don’t have the same problem that I had back in October.
  • I completed my push-ups daily, until my shoulders started acting up again. I plan on picking these back up once I’m able.
  • I did manage to fit in at least one TIU workout 7 days this month. Again, technically the goal was met, but this is definitely something I will be continuing into next month.
  • I work on stretching for splits every day. This is a long-term goal and I will continue working on it.
  • I’m always incorporating ab and core movements into my daily routine. This is another long-term goal that I will continue working on.
  • I’ve been successful at cutting back on sweets. I’m allowing myself to choose one treat per day.
  • Toning up and slimming down overall is my ultimate goal. My next measurement will be March 1. We’ll see how I do.


Aside from that, I’m planning on incorporating more P.Volve workouts into my routine. I tried out a few videos yesterday and love the method! I’m also incorporating Feldenkrais into my daily routine to help my shoulder.

I went to the doctor last week and had to step on the scale. Not my favorite thing to do, but again, I wasn’t happy with the number. To be fair, I did have on my coat, pockets full, and my heavy boots. Subtracting the universal 5 pounds, I still don’t care for the number. I’ll have a better idea of my overall progress on Friday, after I take my measurements. I ‘ll definitely be thinking about new goals concerning inches once I have those numbers. Measurements are a better indicator of success in my book. We’ll see.

Aside from that, I’ve been doing very well with my Intermittent Fasting. I’m getting anywhere between 13 and 15 hours of IF time. I plan on keeping that going this next month to see if it makes a difference in my measurements. I can feel the difference — I feel lighter, I make better food choices, bloating isn’t a big issue anymore, and just overall I feel better.


What about you? How did your month go? Are you revising or setting any new goals for March? Leave a comment and let me know! 

Let’s make March amazing! 





The Best Workouts for Women #FitnessFriday




Hello friends!

Happy Fitness Friday!

It is the last Friday of February, and today I wanted to share my favorite workouts! These are the things I do to keep myself in shape year round, with a few extras added in to really amp up the intensity and get ready for the warmer months.

Let’s dive in!

Best Arm Workouts for Women


Spring is quite literally around the corner. It’s time to shed those sweaters and coats, and step out in your cute t-shirts and sleeveless dresses and tops. Get your arms sculpted and toned with these arm movements so you can feel confident in anything you’re wearing!


The Best Ab Workouts for Women


Spring break usually means swimsuit time. I know it does for me! We’re planning a surprise for my son next month and I’m in the market for a new swimsuit. In this article, I break down my favorite exercises to help widdle away any extra stuff around your waist, toning, and sculpting long, lean, feminine abs.


Best Leg Workouts for Women


She’s got legs…. I love that song! If you want to tone and sculpt your legs, this is for you! These are my favorite exercises to keep legs tight and gorgeous!


Best Booty Workouts for Women

Everyone wants a tight, toned, lifted booty! I got you, girl! These are my favorite exercises to keep the rear view looking good. 😉


Now you’re ready to strut your stuff!



How To Bounce Back After Falling Off The Wagon

Hello friends!

Happy Sunday!

Recently I’ve seen a ton of posts about people who’ve fallen off the wagon with their nutrition and fitness routine and don’t know how to recover. Whether life got busy and they skipped their workout for several days in a row or they over-indulged in savory foods and dessert over the weekend. Valentine’s Day was this past week.. the token Hallmark Holiday of the U.S. — candy, chocolate, dinner out at a fancy restaurant.. one day turns into an entire weekend of treating yo-self, and maybe this morning you’ve woken up feeling bloated, tired, gross, irritated, and disappointed in yourself. Have no fear, loves, this week I’m sharing my top tips to help you recover and get back on track.

Let’s dive in.

1. Get a glass of water.

Seriously. Get up right now and get yourself a tall glass of ice water. If you have lemons or lemon juice, either cut up the lemon slices and drop them in, or squeeze a few drops of lemon juice in your water. Then come back. I’ll wait for you.


Do you have your water? I don’t have any lemon, so I just have plain. Take a sip. Keep sipping as you read the rest of this post. And then, keep drinking water the rest of the day. Hydration is key. It’s going to help you with the bloating (if that’s an issue for you,) flush out your system, and make you feel better. If you aren’t into drinking plain water and you don’t have lemons or any other fruit, or if you are craving a soda, add some MIO to your water. This has been a life saver for me! You know I love my Diet Mountain Dew, and despite all the negative press and scientific evidence about how it’s bad for me, I still love it. It’s caffeinated, it’s delicious, and it’s refreshing. The problem was, I was drinking a 24 pack in a week and a half. I would have coffee in the morning and then switch to Diet Mountain Dew to keep myself caffeinated. Not so good in the long run for my health or the grocery bill. haha! In order to stop, and get myself to drink more water, I started using MIO. Orange Tangerine is my favorite and I also love the Acai Berry one that has caffeine in it. Now, I hardly ever have soda. Maybe once or twice every few months. But I digress. Step one of getting yourself back on track is to drink your water. Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s move on to the second tip. Cheers!

2. Stop beating yourself up / Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

99.9% of anyone who has ever started a fitness journey has slipped up. They’ve had too many cookies, noshed on candy, went back for thirds at dinner, enjoyed a large pepperoni pizza by themselves, drank an entire bottle of wine, etc.. You get the point here. We’ve all done it. We’ve all been there. And many of us have been there on more than one occasion. You’re human. It’s okay. I promise you it isn’t the end of the world… and it isn’t going to derail your progress, unless you let it. Let me say that again.. It isn’t going to derail your progress, unless you let it. You don’t gain 20-30 pounds, or more, over night or over a weekend. You certainly aren’t going to lose it in that short amount of time either. Fitness and nutrition are a lifestyle. Being healthy is a life-long journey. As with anything in life, there will be ups and downs, hurdles and challenges. One day, one weekend, one week isn’t the end all be all. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of allowing this to be your excuse and giving up. Stop beating yourself up. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Did you have fun with your significant other or with your friends? Did you enjoy a nice dinner out? Did you make memories with loved ones? Did you laugh? Smile? Be grateful for that time. Be grateful for the delicious food. Be grateful for the memories you created. Life is so short. Life is too short to be dwelling on the negatives here. But I do want you to sit in this feeling for a minute. Take note of how your body is feeling and what your mindset is. Really think about it and remember this moment. It isn’t to feel guilty or upset. It’s to make you think. There will be many more opportunities this year to over-indulge again. St. Patrick’s Day is coming up. There will be Irish Festivals with delicious food and drinks. Fat Tuesday with Paczki, Easter and an abundance of candy, Memorial Day, summer cook-outs, Indepence Day (If you’re in the States) .. all of these holidays and many other special events that seem to revolve around food. Temptation will always be calling. But if you can remember how you’re feeling right now, remember what overdoing it feels like and the repercussions, you can make better choices in the future and avoid returning to this moment. That’s not to say that you can’t enjoy yourself and you shouldn’t eat any of the treats.. that is not something I would ever encourage. I live my own life by the motto: Everything in moderation. I fully support eating ice cream, cookies, pizza.. all the things. But, in smaller amounts. Life should be enjoyed and food should be a source of joy, too.

So, the takeaway here is to remember this feeling so you can do better next time, but stop beating yourself up in this moment. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not a failure. This is not an excuse to give up and return to old habits.

Accept it, learn from it, move on. 

3. Get moving.

It stands to reason that my next tip is to workout. Let me be clear. This is not a punishment and it isn’t to erase what’s happened. It’s simply to make your body feel better, boost your mood, and a step in the right direction. It’s like when you are learning to ride a bike and you fall off. You don’t give up, put the bike away, and never ride again. No, you get back up, dust yourself off, and hop back on. It’s time to hop back on. Get moving. Go for a walk around your neighborhood. Go to your local park and walk along the trails. Roll out your yoga mat and do the yoga video below, or do your own flow or just stretch. Pick up your weights and do a little circuit. Push play on your favorite workout video. It really doesn’t matter what you do, just get up and move.

This is how you get back on track. It isn’t a close-guarded secret, it isn’t overly complicated. Just simply accepting that it is what it is, learning the lesson, and moving your body. Jump right back in where you left off, taking it one day at a time.

You got this.


I hope this was helpful and I hope you feel better, inspired to get back on track. Do you have any other tips or tricks that you employ in times like these? Leave a comment and let me know!

Have a great week, friends!


4 Ways to Overcome Feelings of Defeat

Hello friends!

Happy Sunday!

How are you doing?

This week I wanted to dedicate a post to dealing with feelings of defeat. This is about the time that old habits begin to creep in and you might find yourself slacking on your goals. Or, maybe you’ve been working really hard, but you just aren’t seeing the results that you thought would.

There are endless scenarios in which we find ourselves feeling defeated. I think we all go through periods of time when we aren’t feeling great about ourselves, whether it’s about your body, your relationships, your career, your life, or just who you are as a person. So, today, I’m going to share a few things I like to do to help combat feeling defeated.


Let’s dive in.

Step Away From Social Media

I love Instagram. It’s become my favorite social media platform. I’ve met so many amazing, inspirational people who also love fitness and yoga. I think social media is a great tool, but it also can have a dark side: it can become an obsession and encourage us to compare ourselves and our lives with others. We all know in the back of our mind that everyone is posting the highlights of their own lives. No one really wants to show the struggles and failures. Now there are people who are more real with what they share. I have several friends who are very real about life, their fitness and yoga journey, mental health, etc… and that is something truly remarkable, but it isn’t the norm. There are also people who are emboldened by anonymity and will troll the heck out of you for no reason at all, other than the simple fact that they can. These are just a few examples. When you find yourself getting caught up in how many likes you are getting per post, how many followers you have, or finding that you are getting irritated, upset, or envious of someone you see on social media, that’s a sign that it’s time to take a step back. It’s also a good idea to step away when you feel defeated or horrible about yourself. No good comes from comparing yourself to someone else, and once you start, it’s hard to stop. Take a break. Whether you log off completely and set your phone down to do something else, or you just resist the urge to open the app, having a break is a breath of fresh air. Don’t worry about letting people know that you are stepping away. Honestly, I think the posts where people share that they need to step away for “me time” are unnecessary. Just do it. Take a break. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Come back when you want and continue about your business. Another tip when it comes to social media is knowing your triggers and re-evaluating your follow list. Who are you following? Why are you following them? How are they adding value to your life? Unfollow anyone who isn’t inspiring you to be better, to grow, or anyone who isn’t adding value to your social media scroll time. Be mindful of who and what you are allowing into your life — this is a valuable life lesson that applies to all areas of your life.


The best thing you can do for yourself when you are feeling defeated is to get up and get moving. Forget the bad feelings for a little bit and immerse yourself in physical activity. Go for a run. Put on a killer playlist and do some dance cardio, or just dance and sing around the house. Do a workout. Hop on the mat for a yoga session. Go for a walk around your neighborhood. Go to your local park and walk the trails. Go outside with your kids and kick a ball around, or play catch. It doesn’t matter what you are doing, so long as you are moving your body and getting some exercise. This is my favorite tip and the one that works 99% of the time for me. My go-to is a Tracy Anderson workout.. for a few different reasons: 1. I can put on any music I want and just perform the movements. 2. The movements are challenging. 3. Her workout is dancer-inspired, which I love. 4. Her workouts work for me, meaning my body responds to the movements and gives me results. Find something that works for you every time and make that your go-to. Getting the blood flowing through the body feels good and produces those endorphins. 😉 You’ll feel so much better when you’re done. Sulking, feeling sorry for yourself, and drowning your sorrows in fattening food, while fun in the moment, doesn’t work long-term. Get up and move. And if you are like me in that 1%, try the next tip.

Take a Nap and/or Get Plenty of Sleep

Sleep is so important, and chances are you aren’t getting enough. This only increases your chances of becoming irritable, grouchy, angry, being unable to focus, losing your ambition and motivation… which all contribute to feeling defeated. Maybe you just need a nap. When movement doesn’t work, I know that it’s time for me to rest my eyes in what I like to call a “Tiger Snooze.” Even if it’s 20 minutes, that’s 20 minutes of relaxing and 20 minutes I’ve given myself to reset. If taking a nap just isn’t a possibility for you, consider going to bed early… every day for the rest of the week. Make sleep your priority. Set a bedtime not only for your kids, but for yourself as well. Once you get to bed, put your phone down, turn off the TV, and shut your eyes. Let your body and your mind have a break and set yourself up for success tomorrow. Getting enough rest will help you be more energized for everything you have to accomplish the next day.

Reconsider Your Goals

This is something I encourage everyone to do on the last Sunday of each month. (This would be those Life Is A Journey: Check in and Reevaluate posts you see once a month. 🙂 ) Sit down and take the time to re-evaluate what you are trying to accomplish. Be honest with yourself. Are you trying to do too much at once? Can you break your goal down into smaller steps? Do you need to change the goal completely? Why are you working toward this goal? Remind yourself of your reason why. Do you need to get more specific with your reasoning? There is nothing wrong with changing your goal. Go back to the drawing board and create a new plan. Yes, you absolutely should sit with your feelings for a little bit. Binge on Netflix and eat some ice cream. Feel sorry for yourself, lounge in your bathrobe for a few days, but realize that at some point, you are going to have to pull yourself out of this funk. We are all responsible for our own happiness — another important life lesson, and while it might seem harsh to read that, the only way your life is going to change and the only way that you are going to overcome feeling defeated, is to take action. Whether it’s with your fitness goals, career goals, life goals, relationship goals.. you have to make a move. Life keeps moving and the world keeps turning, whether you stay still or not. If you aren’t seeing results with your fitness goals, think about what you are doing or not doing. Is your nutrition on point? Are you working out too much? Do you need a few more rest days? Are you going through the motions when you exercise or is your mind really in it when you are doing the movements? Are you doing the right fitness program? Do you need to switch it up? If your career isn’t going where you want to, think about why that is. Do you need more education? Do you need to update your resume? Do you need to find a new job? Do you need to switch positions in your company? Are you just doing the bare minimum or are you going above and beyond? Be honest with yourself, and then create an action plan with doable steps to get you where you want to be.


And those are the things that work for me. I’d love to hear from you. What do you do when you feel defeated? Please share your tips and tricks in the comments.

Have a great week friends!